my dear sisters,
do not marry a man
who values getting married
more than he does marrying you.
if his love carries conditions,
do not break your back
trying to change
the curve of your spine.
and when you say
you are not ready,
let him leave.
if you learn he has married another,
do not be disheartened.
there are men who love the idea of marriage
more than they will ever be able to love a woman.
you are better of without them.